The things that I have learned about a Christian marriage Part I

4 years, 1 month and 19 days. (2 hour and ..... 8 minutes at the time of this post)
That is how long I have been married. Sometimes I am amazed that Kevin and I have been married for such a short time, because of everything that we have been through these past 4 years. In total, our relationship spans the course of (almost) 6 years (081704). I met Kevin in 2000, but I can say that I have 'known' him since March 2001, when he got hired at LPD. Sheesh, that seems like forever ago!
Over the trubulant and joyous time since we made our covenant before God and man, there are some truths that I have learned about marriage. I am not saying that these truths are applicable to every marriage, I just think that they are pretty mainstream to the Christian marriage today.

TRUTH #1- It doesnt matter if you gain 30 pounds, have 2 kids, and are covered in stretch marks; he still wants to see you naked. (plus more).
I gained 60 pounds in the 6 week pregnancy I had with Justice. (For more info on this phenomenon, please read the 'Justice' post). I have a 10-inch scar from the cesarian section that was required to remove our beautiful 9-lb 1-oz girl from my body. Just 22 months later, my abdomen was inflicted with another 10.5-inch incision that is now a scar; this one marks the birth of our 9-lb 6-oz son. Stretch marks cover my breasts, my stomach, my sides, and my thighs. Apparently my skin has zero elasticity. But seriously, my stomach looks like it was mauled by a tiger. However, my husband's eyes cannot see them. It really is the most amazing thing. In August of last year, I had a laperoscopy. The 3 incisions left 3 scars on my abdomen.  I am completely repulsed by my body, and the scars and stretch marks that litter my midsection. It baffles me that he can look at me and see a beautiful woman. It mystifies me that he can look at my body and be turned on. Alas, it is a truth. I think that if more of us women are courageous enough to bare our bareness to our husbands, they would be altogether happier people.

TRUTH #2- He will never understand why we take so long to get ready, seek approval, and change outfits.
I am definately guilty of this, from time to time. I take care to pick out an outfit that I think looks good, especially if it's for a 'date'. I select articles of clothing that might not be the most comfortable. I take care to squeeze into clothing that I think looks 'good'. Then I parade myself in front of my husband, despirate for a compliment. He seldom disappoints. I typically read way too much into this compliment, and end up changing my outfit, thinking that I dont look as good as he says I do. Well, that, and the 'uncomfortable!' thought finally makes it's way to the forefront of my mind.
I think we would make things easier on ourselves, and our husbands, if we just go with what we feel good in, versus what I think I look good in, when selecting outfits. Who am we trying to impress anyway? We already married the loves of our lives, why do we care what the matre'd thinks?

TRUTH 3- Well, you're going to have to wait for the next post. I have to get dinner ready for my family!

Need to Update

I guess it has been a while since I have authored a new blog post. I cannot say that a lot has been going on, but alas, I have been busy. I am currently in the middle of deep-cleaning my house. Going through all the cupboards and closets, sorting and trashing. Yes, it is the most tedious part of the year, spring. Which marks the Kent Annual Trip To The Dump. Im just getting ready.

As far as updates on the kids; it's so hard to share through the meduim of the blog. Kayden has sprouted into a little boy. He talks nearly as much as Justice! He was just allergy tested, and we have found that he is allergic to: Eggs, Peas, Soy, Peanuts, Oak trees, every type of weed and pollen. We have him on a Xopanex inhaler, trying to avoid having to take him to get allergy shots weekly for as long as possible.

Justice spent another 4-hours stint in the ER a couple weeks ago, due to another ear infection. Her 2nd. Ever.

The school year will be wrapping up in a couple of weeks, so we just signed her up for VBS at our church. I am so glad that we have her in private school! WIth all the fuss over there being a Harvey Milk Appreciation Day, I am relieved that the traditional Christian values are the only ones being imparted on my daughter in school. She has been learning so much! She knows the entire Pledge of Allegiance, and she can write her name.

Justice also started T-Ball last week. She seems to be more naturally inclined to hit balls with bats, than kick balls into nets. Here are a couple pictures from her game last week:

The next couple weeks are going to be very busy. Tomorrow is T-ball game #2. Besides all the everyday stuff during the week, next weekend we have T-ball and a K9 trial on Saturday, a 5K and a special event on Sunday, and Monday we are going to Discovery Kingdom (formerly Marine World) with friends. Then we leave Thursday June 3rd for a camping trip, for a whole week!

I'll be sure to post some pictures.